​Am I a People-Pleaser? 

What? Me a people-pleaser? No way!

Brigit's Breakdown

It's easy, so get comfy and kick back! Time to rate each statement on a scale from 1 to 5--here's the breakdown:
1 = Strongly Disagree | 5 = Strongly Agree
You might be a people-pleaser if...

1. Do you say "yes" a lot even when you really feel like saying "no"? Do you do it to avoid disappointing someone?

1 2 3 4 5

2. Do you feel guilty or anxious when you prioritize your own needs over what someone else wants?

1 2 3 4 5

3. Do you apologize all the time, even when you haven’t done anything wrong? Maybe to keep the peace?

1 2 3 4 5

4. Do you avoid saying what you really think, or how you really feel, if you think someone might get upset?

1 2 3 4 5

5. Do you feel responsible for other people’s happiness or emotional well-being?

1 2 3 4 5

6. Do you struggle to set boundaries, or keep them, when others push back?

1 2 3 4 5

7. Do you often put others’ needs ahead of your own, even if you’re exhausted?

1 2 3 4 5

8. Do you worry way too much about what others think of you or whether they approve of your actions?

1 2 3 4 5

9. Do you find it hard to ask for help or talk about your own needs because you don’t want to burden others?

1 2 3 4 5

10. Do you feel uncomfortable when you get special attention or praise? Do you tend to deflect it to others?

1 2 3 4 5

11. Do you stay in relationships (or in situations you don’t like) longer than you want to avoid hurting someone’s feelings?

1 2 3 4 5

12. Do you feel like your self-worth depends on how much you do for others?

1 2 3 4 5

Get Your Score!

Your Score

Ready for the score?

Now you need to add up your scores for all 12 questions. Get ready and remember—it’s only the truth that sets you free!

• 12–24: Your tendency to people-please is really low. You probably make it a priority to get your own needs covered first, and you set healthy boundaries on your own.
• 25–36: Well, it’s a slippery slope for you when it comes to saying no. You have a little trouble putting your needs ahead of others’, but can still balance self-care—which is a must.
• 37–60: Oh no! You need my book right away! Seems like you struggle to prioritize yourself and could benefit from a little boundary-setting and standing up for yourself.

Next Steps? YES!

If your score is “telling all” right now and you’re a true-blue people-pleaser, do this: think about exact times/places when you felt compelled to please others. Don’t worry—there’s plenty you can do to get out of the rut. It’s all about building new habits.

Try this: journaling, talking to a friend, or finding a social media group where you can get some support. In a nutshell, you need to build confidence in prioritizing what you want. AND, don’t forget what I wrote just for you! MY BOOK!

A Woman's Guide to Saying WHATEVER! How to Stop People Pleasing and Live with Confidence